'This my take on that issue, i know that we were given a Stick on How the average Kenyan Man is when it Comes to Dating an Intelligent lady. First of all am Speaking for the Serious Guys Only. I Think that for us what we Fear the Most is REJECTION. That is Something that all Men whether Great and Small will tell you they Fear. I remember reading in one of the Daily papers of what Happened to Lord Egerton after the Lady of his Dreams had Rejected Him it tore him apart and he resigned to his fate despite that he would have married again. He spent the Last Few years of his Life in Solitude and in the Confines of his House.
Back to my topic, now for the average Guy wants that Special woman who is Intelligent, I believe that The APPROACH here is the Key, picture a tree that has Fruits and others that have Fallen down which i tend to Call'chips funga',others that are Hanging Loose may be 'one Night stands',and those ones that are on Top of the tree. We find that the Fruits that are on top of the Tree is what we want, Forget beuty of the looks that gets old with time but Beuty of the Brains that Dosen't get old.one that can only be Increased,renewed,expounded on improved and all,a woman who is intelligent that acts back or talks i dont see nothing wrong with that coz even average ladies have their own opinions. But am Picturing taking an intelligent woman to the House will she Conform,take her Position in the House,she might boss you around,her Knowledge might blind her,can she really be a Homemaker? and all these are the Questions that the average Guy asks,
1, Intelligent Women are known to be too Choosy, which is not a Bad thing but the Cluster of men who want these ladies are Few,for the average guy there is the Fear of Failure,and the Zeal to be successfull and move up the Social ladder. I believe it's how to express it that matters that the guy might fall short so the Aproach that is Diffrent with the average guy.
2,One is expected to be Firm and use a Persuasive tone. We all agree that not all of us can be orators like Barack obama,patrick Lumumba and all but i believe even the average guy shows tingles of Intelligence that the Lady should just give them the opportunity but these days even the Most intelligent are blinded by the Society and their Ego gets the Best of them.
3, Refined Humour, for the Kawaida dude humour is humour whether stale,bold you name it flattering and gifts arent taken by Intelligent women like average girls.coz all that may be Percieved wrongly but when an Average guy is trying to make a Sister Laugh he needs to be given the oppoturnity atleast let him be given a Chance.
4, Modesty and Humbleness here we find that the guy would be expected to be Modest and show it. And so it's not like we Lack in Maturity and Behaviour but the average guy just wants to be Himself.thats why they Rave alot,drink themselves silly,i guess it's not letting a stage pass you By. Thats why we do what we do. It's the Thrill of it.
Lastly we look for the Admiration and the Appriciation of the Learned Sisters. I also believe that the Intelligent Lady has her Fears and all.So the next time a guy pulls a fast one it shouldn't be taken the wrong way but let the brother be Understood. Bottom line we Fear Rejection, we are Still Learning how to express Ourselves. If a dude asks whether you single enough times he may probably be Looking for the Perfect opportunity.'
Well said Paul!
All in all, ladies and dudes are plenty in number, different types and sizes, all i advise guys/chics is to get a partner who will add value into your life, someone who will make you a better person - my only exception is that no one should settle for 'average guy' coz you always be average, think average etc...
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I find this topic thrilling! I was having a drink with male friends a few weeks back when , after the usual intense discussion around politics and foreign policy. We argued - all of us! I was the only female talking because some of them were too drunk or trying to appear passive, I don't care, when I heard one of the guys turn to a new comer and say, "Yeah...She's really HARD headed... And she knows too much, she's about to complete her Masters!" I was angry for a few days as I learned these guys - some of whom I've known for years are usually offended/irritated/intimidated by how I think; or to put it better that I actually think! One guy actually had the nerve to ask me later, "So, who's cooking for your man if you are talking so much?"
ReplyDeleteBut you know the good news? There are tonnes of women who are intimidated by me. And better still, there are a number of men who aren't!